One of the often discussed topics is shame, which although is often talked about, but is never managed. So, what really is shame? Shame is basically a feeling, where someone feels something is bad or wrong about them.
What is the source of shame? Shame originates from other people, generally family members, kids at school, or parents, who do or say things that disapprove of some part of an individual, like their complexion, weight, race, looks, etc. This, in turn, gives rise to a feeling of shame in that individual, whether he or she is black or white. They feel that something is wrong with them.
There are several ebony adults, who are ashamed about their physical looks or any other thing about themselves. And, this shame usually stems from the shaming behavior of other people towards them during their childhood. Unfortunately, the identity of a child is formed, when he or she is very young and altering this in their adult years is quite hard.
Have a look at some kinds of shame that people have especially in the dating world of black individuals. Besides, the type of shame, there are also ways listed with each of them, so that you can get detached from each shame and thus live more confidently.
MONETARY SHAME
Money would not seem to be a big shame to you, when it comes to your interracial dating life. However, if you have a negative financial situation, then it is a problem for your black dating life. Monetary shame can be caused by any of these factors like managing a large debt, being laid off or fired from your job, getting a house foreclosure, filing for bankruptcy, etc.
If you have gone through any of these things, then you may have found it difficult to disclose the truth to your ebony dates. This is because people judge other people and your negative financial situation may pose a negative image of you in front of others.
However, here the main thing that you must remember is that these are temporary circumstances, which you can control. You can work as much as possible at your job or find additional jobs in order to get out of your negative financial circumstances. And, telling this to your black dates will reveal your committing nature and make you feel proud as well.
BODY SHAME
Body shame is the most common among adults. And, due to it, people find it difficult to get into interracial relationships or all those who are in a mixed relationship destroy their ebony relationship owing to body shame. Interracial relationships generally involve a physical and sexual component and therefore it is very important to be comfortable with your body.
There are many people out there who are not comfortable with their bodies. Some have problems with their whole body and some dislike some particular parts of their body. For instance, for black people, it is about their dark complexion, heavy built, etc.
However, the key to get over this type of shame is to tell yourself that your body is fine, till you are comparatively healthy. You can say this in front of the mirror too. You must like your body and should not pressurize yourself to love it.
Thus, shame can be very bad for your black dating life or for black women white men dating or white women black men dating. You must shed all the shames that you have regarding yourself and try to be comfortable with your own self, as your shame can prove to be negative for your mixed relationship.